Creating Peace through Self-respect

You know those mornings when you wake up feeling grumpy for no real reason? That was me today. So, I did what I’ve learned to do in those moments—I carved out some quiet time to study, pray, and ponder. I was searching for answers, trying to figure out, *How can I feel better? How do I shift this mood?*  

As I sat there, with my scriptures open and my thoughts swirling, something gentle but clear came to me—like a whisper to my heart: *self-respect.* It wasn’t loud or dramatic, but it stopped me in my tracks. It was exactly what I needed to hear.  

Self-respect, rooted in respectus (Latin for “regard” or “looking back”), is the regard for one’s inherent worth. It requires recognizing your divine potential, setting boundaries, and making choices with personal integrity. Self-respect is the beginning of confidence, resilience, and an enduring sense of value, essential for personal growth and healthy relationships. It’s less about what you do or achieve and more about valuing yourself simply because you are you.

“Self-respect”, that quiet reminder that I had forgotten my personal importance in existence, helped me realize that I can practice right in those moments when I’m not at my best. It’s about choosing kindness for myself, even on the grumpy mornings. Recognizing my value in the world, simply because I am who I am.  So I asked myself, What’s one small thing I can do right now to honor and respect myself?  For me, it was as simple as gratitude, letting go of the negativity, connecting with my Creator, and deciding to take the day one small step at a time.  

Feeling a little convicted, like I was? Here are some ideas for course correction- you are so worth it!

Create Hope. Start with Baby Steps: Self-respect grows incrementally. Begin with simple actions, like affirming your worth daily. For example, each morning, look in the mirror and say, “I deserve love and divine help. I am important.” Take small steps toward aligning your actions with your values. If health is a priority, start by drinking more water or walking 10 minutes daily. These manageable actions reinforce your sense of personal control and build confidence. Besides, exercise in however small a form is a natural antidepressant. You’ll feel better.

Embody Compassion: Treat yourself with the kindness you would extend to a dear friend. When setbacks occur, instead of criticism, offer grace. Remind yourself, “I’m learning and growing. Progress, not perfection, is what matters.” Give yourself permission to be human.

Practice Mindfulness: Being present and out of your head makes all the difference.  In a present state, your curiosity helps you notice patterns and make conscious choices that reflect self-respect. Ready for a mini vacation? Take five minutes to breathe deeply. Meditation allows you to reflect on your emotions and create peace. Ask yourself, “What do I need right now to feel supported?” Maybe it’s havening touch, maybe a hug, or smelling something lovely.  Answer your question and do it. That’s soothing self-care at its finest.

Self-respect isn’t just for the good days—it’s also the key to navigating the harder ones. Let’s make this week about baby steps toward the life you want to create.  You’re worth it.

So here’s my challenge: What’s one small step you can take today to honor the gift to the world you are? Maybe giving yourself grace, choosing a kind thought, or pausing for peace.  

You’ve got this, and I’m cheering for you every step of the way!