Let’s talk about darkness.  We are approaching winter solstice, and it’s dark when I wake in the morning.  I miss the warmth and optimism of the summer sun, the birds singing, the world waking as I wake.  I mean, it’s dark. And it’s cold and often gloomy.

Do you have darkness in your life right now? Is the emotional light of your days getting shorter, and you find your thoughts with less light and hope, feeling less love?

That’s okay.

We have a 50/50 Life, and that dark side is part of it.  

The trick, my friend, is to remember that the light is just on the other side while it’s dark. Choose to sit in gratitude for the contrast and learning that comes in the darkness.  I can still hear my yoga teacher saying, as we held a difficult pose, “Don’t fight it.” As we allow the discomfort, it feels better.

Choose to allow.  Choose to learn. I am grateful.

Things are easier when we choose to learn as we feel through the dark times.

So, as the days grow darker – quite literally – try these thoughts on.  

If you can’t say I’m grateful for the darkness, sadness, anger, frustration, grief, injustice etc. can you say… 

I am willing to feel and learn from this. 

Can you choose to tell yourself a different story about the dark? I heard this week that peace is the space we find between the stories we tell ourselves.  I’m sure you have felt those moments of quiet peace- they’re lovely.  

What about remembering the good you have experienced when the tough experiences arrive?

Remember that your Creator has been there for you.  

Remember that the sun is warm on your skin and the times you have felt loved.  

Remember how strong and supported you are.  

Remembering the good will bring you light over the short, dark times.

This winter darkness is simply seasonal.  Whatever the pain, it is neither permanent nor pervasive and will end.  That’s what 50/50 is all about.  The flip side of this coin is light and lovely, and light will return- it’s inevitable. Life is a 50/50 experience.  50% good and 50% not so good. 

Here’s to the light, my friend- and the learning in the darkness. 

It’s all good.

All my love,



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