There are many emotions and patterns associated with the holidays. Yes, I said it- “The Holidays”. The very words may conjure happy anticipation or dread and an adrenal surge. It happens every year, just like clockwork. There are so many feelings about “The Holidays.”
The Holidays can be a very soothing and happy time as we enter into them in the Creator-based® Way. This tip from Alex Howard can propel you forward as you stop focusing on the upcoming problem situations and create the holiday and the life you really want.
It’s a simple little acronym- STOP. Like stop holiday stress, stop holiday dread, and stop holiday angst. Instead, use this acronym to start creating the holidays you would like to have.
I just returned from 3 weeks at my daughter’s – a delightfully foreign place filled with children and all their attending happiness, screaming, joy, and chaos. We waited and walked through those weeks for her fourth baby to be born. In that time, I was able to practice STOP repeatedly. When I came home, I kept going and wanted to share it with you because it works. When you notice that you are activated in some way- irritated, worried, frustrated, lonely, etc. STOP.
S See the Pattern
T Take the pause
O Open to the feelings in your emotional/physical body.
P Praise yourself.
1. See the pattern: when has this happened before?
2. Take the pause: Come back into your body through a deep breath, finding your feet or noticing scent, sound, taste, and touch.
3. Open to the feelings in your emotional and physical body: What emotions are you feeling? Where in your body do you feel them? See into them and notice what they say to you.
4. Praise Yourself: You need to do nothing more than congratulate and tell yourself how great you are at this point. You remembered to take care of yourself- good job! You have reset your nervous system onto a new path and most likely feel differently.
This little pattern, practiced regularly over time (through the holidays), will change the way you think and feel and promote an ongoing kinder, gentler approach to yourself and your life. It is incredibly simple and profound.
You’ll be glad you did!
I sure am.
All my love,
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