A Creator-based® Life, Peace in Diversity
‘Peace in Diversity’ 2 Different is not Deficient. We are different by design.
Immersed in our culture with all of the media influences and business of life, it’s easy to be swayed into opinions and expectations in our relationships. What did your culture of origin dictate? Our childhood experiences and modeling, like clay, blends colors and categories into something that feels permanent. (It’s not, and we can help you change it). What categories were you taught in society, school, or home? What core beliefs were modeled in your childhood?
We each have family culture, community, church, and educational cultures. They all impress upon us in their own way the way things “should” be. This impacts our current family and relationship expectations.
We form thoughts of how our family and relationships “should” be. But are they accurate? And what happens when the family or relationship is different from our picture? Trouble. Judgment. Distance. Let’s see how it’s going for you-
What is the situation as you see it? Name it.
What is the thought associated with this situation? Examine it.
What is the emotion & experience that thought generates? Challenge it!
What if instead of the negative emotion you are experiencing, we create a new thought that allows us to choose to love what is?
I know that may be inconceivable. I understand.
But could you, would you, for a moment, consider it?
What if this is a gift?
What if this is the way it should be for the growth of everyone involved?What would you think about it then?What if different is not deficient?What if different is good?What if your kid’s choices are the choices that will bring them the most significant growth and learning? What if this will help your loved one powerfully and positively impact the world in their unique calling?
What if their difference from your expectation is just as it should be?
If that’s the case, changing the thought and, sequentially, the emotion will impact your relationship in a very supportive way.
You are the center of power here. You are the creator of your life. Try following the steps this week. What is the situation as you see it? Name it. What is the thought associated with this situation? Examine it.What is the emotion & experience that thought generates? Challenge it! It works.
All my love, Beth
Certified Master Life Coach for
CMH Coaching for Life
CMH Coaching for Life
Home of Creator-based Coaching® and the CBC® group experience.